A young family lives in a communal apartment and constantly conflicts with its neighbors for good reasons. Luck smiles at them - they manage to move to separate housing. Contrary to expectations, young people are beginning to actively quarrel with each other. In the end - a divorce, exchange, again a communal. Or an exemplary “homemade” child will be overrun by a puppy selflessly torturing. Or, in a quiet, conflict-free home and at work, a person suddenly seems to break something, he quickly turns into an unbridled alcoholic, dying in a drunken brawl or taking his own life. What is common in these sad examples?
At the heart of these "everyday" dramas is total disregard for human aggressiveness. We are accustomed to consider it the fruit of the world of animals or bad education, trying to ignore, or, worse, suppress. However, studies show that aggression is as much an instinct inherent in all living things as the absorption of food or procreation. Attempts to ignore the instinct are as fruitful as the recognition of a nonexistent riding around the corner of a truck. Why is this aggressiveness, you ask?
Like any instinct, it serves only one purpose - the preservation of the form. A simple example - if two pigeons (by the way, symbols of peace) stay together in a tight cage for a long time, the moment will inevitably come when only two of the pigeons will remain. And vice versa - with the mutual "repulsion" of individuals of the same species from each other, they will evenly spread throughout all possible territory, and even the weakest will have a chance to feed and breed. The problem is that the instincts still dictate the will of nature from within, but outside they are constrained by laws, norms and rules - the fruits of civilization. Allowed paths of emission of aggression, which served our ancestors, are less and less. The system of visas and registrations will not allow to escape to the ends of the earth, hunting is available to few, and the duel became a criminal offense. However, there is always a compromise.
Where to look for him? First of all, physical activity will help to cope with its aggressiveness. She is available even bedridden. After all, with all the attention to the world of the soul, the musculoskeletal system and skin remain the most exposed to stress. First, it is a barrier between the outside world and our body, and the barrier, by definition, is overloaded and needs constant strengthening. Secondly, from a utilitarian point of view, this is 80% of our body weight, blood volume and number of nerve endings. And the meaning here is not in self-punishment and setting records, but in regular “burning”, due to physical exercises, an excess of biologically active substances (catecholamines) activating aggressiveness. In this regard, as a doctor, I can only welcome the growing interest in martial arts and fitness, bathing procedures and massage among our contemporaries from year to year. They not only improve the body, but also give balance to the soul. It should be noted that relaxing procedures like autogenic training or lying on the beach are truly effective only when combined with active neuromuscular work.
Secondly, a change in the “range of stimuli” significantly helps. The average citizen lives in a world of strong and superstrong stimuli - sound, light, olfactory. This “bombardment” of natural barriers forces us to respond with equally strong responses in order to maintain a delicate mathematical balance. At the same time, the people around are in the same position as we are, and one increase in the tone of the voice in the neutral in content of the conversation can turn its course on the diametrically opposite. If our answers are not commensurate with the strength of external stimuli, the accumulated neuropsychic tension will destroy the harmonious work of our functions and organs, and human aggression will include a kind of “self-destruction program” - from bodily illness to using intoxicants or suicide. Any communication with nature - a walk in the park or along the coast, a hike in the woods, work at the dacha, feeding the animal - for some time give a break to our body “blocked” by the city.
Thirdly, do not be afraid of openly hostile to anyone, and even the whole of humanity, thoughts that periodically come to our mind. It is enough to lose them mentally, but it is better to tell your feelings to those whom you trust, for this is the natural reaction of an ordinary person to an obstacle. This will reduce the level of tension, and the aggressiveness of the devastating tornado will be a tone that allows you to keep your back straight and truly appreciate the world.